Hopelessly Ruled by Trauma

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Wells Tao
July 9 at 11:46 AM ·
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I'm having a moment of basking glory in change in me, as today I've got a major art deadline due and I've got two sick kids at home and no one else.
There was a time, say the last 18 years where I wouldn't be able to handle that, blow out, up all over the place. Not cool, cliche, real waste of energy. Hopelessly ruled by trauma I couldn't get my head around.
NOW, having such a cruizey gentle fun day,
yay



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Clare Robinson
Yay! Enjoy
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Suraya Sidhu Singh
Sorry to hear your kids are unwell
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Richard Reddaway
That's the spirit!
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Elsje Winnubst
Kudos to you!
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Wells Tao
the difference being removing the toxic in my life, no longer being depressed, violent or abusive, and practicing self care. Didn't do that, couldn't do that before. Now I prepare for situations and completely avoid others.
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Roger Boyce
Congrats

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Wells Tao
Roger Boyce thanks
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Shaun Patrickmurphy
Thats a great corner to turn and there are more as you get to the root of you and your processes. Go well.
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Wells Tao
Yay

Greg Stingray
Good news Bro, get some soup into those kids and put your feet up. .
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Sohn Yoo Sehmin
Yay
congrats
bro! Hope the kids get well and I know they will and I love that you are cruising and love your post Tao! Cheers to you and the major art deadline as well yuhu!! Gosh I would like to see you!!! Was looking at the photo you took of me infront of your painting in your place around 2013/4 I think sometime wearing your shirt... that you had screenprinted with your art on it. Fond of this memory and visiting you. Ciao.
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Wells Tao
Sohn Yoo Sehmin I remember that like it was yesterday. But at the time I was locked into my head, I couldn't understand what was wrong with me, even though I thought I knew as it could make sense. There was like a wall of glass between you, life and me. Glass gone now. Sad it was there at all, but so freekn relieved I can feel and that that's important
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Steve Austin
Getting older like the rest of us lol … the life journey … tougher than we think huh?
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Jason Muir
Ka pai e hoa!
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Hayley Darling
its nice getting older
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Johanna Sanders
All the Tao, one of the best minds in the business!
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Johanna Sanders
Haha my typos are so bad... All the Best Tao!!! Still totally one of the best minds!!!
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Wells Tao
"from" one of the best...
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Johanna Sanders
ok then
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Hope Williams
Smart and insightful changes, all the best
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Rami Al-Jiab
Real glad bro, that's a tough place to be and change from, fighting yourself is way harder than fighting life, which in turn makes fighting life all the way harder. Pray/wish me the same I am still in pinhead mode LOL anxiety got me pinned like a deer caught by headlights
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Wells Tao
wishing you radical self care bud.


Rami Al-Jiab
Wells TaoWells Tao i can see it now, i dont care about myself, all i want to do is care for others just becuase thats the standard i set myself before having mental health issues as i was able to look after me and do community work, now i cant do both, as i leave self care and i try to do community work but it ends up burning my energy, which reminds me i am not myself as before which makes me even more depressed and less equiped to self care than when i started. from your post and many others advise and self awareness i can see that i have prioritise and look after me first then when i feel better expand but I can't becuase my anxiety tells me if i do this i will get used to it then i will always be selfish and not care about activism issues. i cant be selfish, it scares the fuck out of me
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Wells Tao
You won't change, you'll just get better. Healthy Boundries first, then good stuff happens.
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Steve Austin
Hugs from Marlborough